Drinking at a Wedding

champagne glassesRecently I came across an article listing a few of the more disastrous mishaps occurring when there was extensive drinking at a wedding.

Not long before that particular find, I discovered this little doozy making its rounds in Internet Land.  (The looks that bride is throwing this woman — daggers, folks.)

Personally, I’m not a fan of drinking at a wedding.  Okay, sure I don’t really mind a few small sips of champagne during the toasts — it’s traditional, and it has its romantic element that works well for a wedding.  No problem there.

But for me, I think it should pretty much stop there.  I got involved in a discussion a few weeks ago, a sort of debate about whether or not open bars were the right way to go.  The original poster was of the opinion that paid bars were tacky and that all weddings should be open bar.  But many of us, especially those of us who work in weddings professionally, were in pretty strong disagreement with him.  The horror stories I’ve heard from other professionals in the industry…oh, I shudder.  I’ve dealt with remarkably few incidents personally, but I have been cornered and yelled at by the mean drunks, pinched in inappropriate places by the occasional leering and overly-friendly drunk, and witnessed the physical effects of people passing out on the dance floor or rushing to the restroom — and not quite making it.  It isn’t a pretty picture, guys.

I think sometimes people view a wedding as just another party, or just another excuse to party.  But it’s not.  A wedding is more than that.  It’s a celebration, yes, but it’s more of an upscale, elegant affair.  It is a story of romance.  And guests tossing back shots and getting plastered can absolutely ruin a wedding!  (Just look at the examples above — and those don’t even scratch the surface!)  There is nothing romantic about people making fools of themselves or throwing up because they drank too much.  And to add insult to injury, if the bride and groom have an open bar, they have just paid — a lot of money, usually; alcohol doesn’t come cheap — to have their guests embarrass themselves and others.  It makes a lot of people uncomfortable, and I don’t think that’s what your guests should go away from your wedding remembering.  Because believe me, they will.

Some drinking at a wedding may have its place, but keep it to a minimum.  Fist fights, saloon-style brawls, pole-dancing gone horribly wrong…this does not belong at a wedding.


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